As environmental concerns grow and graveyards become increasingly full, cremation has emerged as an ever more popular choice for final farewells in the UK. Yet, despite its rising prevalence, myths and misconceptions still persist.

Death doesn’t often come up as a topic of conversation at the dinner table, and for many, the complexities of funeral etiquette remain a mystery until the inevitable happens. In this guide, we aim to clear up common myths about cremation and offer straightforward guidance on funeral etiquette in the UK.

Common Myths

Cremation is a new concept

While cremation may seem like a modern choice, it has been practiced for centuries. Ancient Greeks and Romans utilised cremation, and in the UK, it became legal in 1885 with the opening of Woking Crematorium (The Cremation Society, 2025).

Though less popular than burial funerals for a long period of time, cremations now make up a significant proportion of funeral arrangements in 2025, and direct cremations (a cremation without attendance or a service), now make up for more than 20% of cremation funeral arrangements.

Cremation is at odds with religious beliefs

A common misconception is that cremation goes against religious beliefs. While some faiths, such as Orthodox Judaism and Islam, traditionally avoid cremation, many others accept it. The Church of England has no objection, and the Catholic Church lifted its ban in 1963, provided the ashes are treated respectfully. Hinduism and Sikhism have also long practiced cremation.

Within Judaism, there are differing views on whether cremation, and the burial of ashes, is acceptable. In orthodox communities it is considered inconsistent with the Jewish religion, whereas in Reform Judaism circles, there is a softer view on cremation.

You can’t have a funeral if you choose a cremation

Choosing cremation does not mean you can’t hold a meaningful funeral. Many families in the UK conduct services at crematorium chapels, churches, or other venues before or after the cremation, allowing for flexibility in planning.

As society gradually moves away from traditional funeral customs, we’re seeing more personal and meaningful ways of saying farewell to our loved ones, especially with the rise of direct cremation arrangements helping families save considerable amounts of money that they can later spend on a celebration of life.

There is no right way to say goodbye—it’s important to chat with your loved ones so they can uphold your wishes.

Ashes are the same as fireplace ash

This is probably the most common misunderstanding about cremation. Cremated remains are not like ordinary ash from a fireplace; they consist of processed bone fragments, resulting in a fine, sand-like texture.

Other organic matter is broken down during the cremation process, leaving just the dense bone fragments and any items like prosthetic joints or dental implants that cannot be broken down with heat.

UK crematoria adhere to strict regulations to ensure the cremation process is respectful from start to finish (Government UK, 2025).

Cremation is always cheaper than burial

Yes, cremation can be a more affordable option than traditional burial in the UK, but not always. Additional expenses, such as memorial services, urns, or fees for interring ashes, can increase the overall cost. If you’re not wanting any bells or whistles though, and are happy with an unattended cremation, you’ll likely save a decent amount of money.

It’s important to review all potential expenses before deciding on which option is best for you or your family. Having an open discussion with your relatives about your wishes is also an important step in ensuring your wishes are both communicated, and enacted when you pass away.

Cremation means no memorialisation

Cremation does not take away the opportunity for memorialisation. Many loved ones and families choose to bury ashes, keep them at home in a special place or take them to a permanent storage location like a columbarium or mausoleum.

It’s also popular to scatter ashes in meaningful locations, like a favourite beach or an area of countryside that the deceased enjoyed spending time in. There is no right or wrong way to say goodbye—it just needs to be right for you and your family.

For those who opt for a direct cremation, the money saved on a traditional, attended cremation, also gives an opportunity for family to celebrate a life in a happy and positive way, sharing memories and experiences over a drink or two, with their community of friends and family.

Making the right decision for you

There’s no right or wrong way to plan your farewell. As society evolves and traditional customs gradually fade, it’s more important than ever to ensure your final goodbye reflects your wishes. Whether you prefer a classic, traditional ceremony or something more elaborate and unique, what truly matters is that you’ve explored your options and chosen what feels right for you.

Don’t let common misconceptions influence your decision—knowledge is power, so it’s important you look into your options.